We Must Transcend The Things That keep up Us
These words of Rubin Hurricane Carters, in the motion picture of the true story, The Hurricane (1999) are etched in golden truth for anyone whos had a real life battle of the titans and won. Its like the summation of the movie in one short statement; how a fighter who had dealt with enormous injustice all his life had to deal with it big time, to break a tortuous 20-year incarceration-the fight for his freedom against a system of inherent and rampant corruption.
The part of The Hurricane when Carter (played brilliantly by Denzel Washington) says We must transcend the things that keep up us, is particularly poignant. Facing incredible odds to fight the system, whilst simultaneously maintaining his sanity, Carter was faced with making such a resolve-it was crucial for his survival. It required a commitment to himself; a commitment to flip his world upside down in order to stay in the game. He begun to work and study at night, and sleep during the day-anything really, to keep sane and strong. Theres a meaningful lesson here. Its one of protection. It is about protecting the comparatively clean spirit that exists within each one of us, guarding it against corruption. Carter identified it. He identified it and then put a plan into place and executed it. That takes courage and discipline, or put together, faith and diligence.
So what holds people? And, how do people transcend these things? The meaningful learning and inspiration here is this: there are many things, people and situations (things + people) that will make their most ardent attempt to keep up us in this life. Its a hard fact of life. This is because many people and things want control over us. This is not love-based.
To make this clear, a keep up is anything or any relationship that doesnt or cant stand up to truth; and anything that corrupts or potentially corrupts. This includes anything downright sinful, relationships that will never be a blessing, or anything that has a negative keep up and doesnt have a good reason for a person to continue with-taking into account the many things that might appear to keep up us, but in fact are truly good for us-these are not unprotected to this discussion. for example, the job we must keep up, or the basic mentoring relationship that is difficult, but advantageous. We must continue with these things and persevere them, until it is the right time to leave, and move on.
Anything that you know implicitly is truth, will not seek to keep up you. Eugene Peterson wrote of the 1 Corinthians 13 in The Message paraphrase, Love doesnt want what it doesnt have. The only exception to this is when the keep up gives you life, for example, when someone is trying to escape a keep up, perhaps an addiction. At these times, in these situations, it is basic to stick with it because the keep up is truly because of love; often known as tough love. It is at these times and places in life when people need to be humble and accept what is good for them and their future. So, this wisdom is not about healthy holds, which could better be referred to as bonds.
This wisdom is a call to address co-dependent style relationships whether they be personal (in the form of habits, addictions etc), with another person (classical co-dependence), or organisational (for example, within a workplace, club, or religious setting including sects, church fellowship, mosque etc).
A keep up is like a veneer finish. One of our challenges is not only to see by the keep up, but also to be able to improving this veneer, because holds are truly just that, veneer. Truth stands, but falsity crumbles once the veneer is broken by. One of the most important roles in life is to be able to recognise falsity and deal with it courageously by breaking by its veneer. Veneer is facade, turn up, the surface of the matter only. Truth is a foil for all sorts of lies in life; we must see by, and past the veneer, to gain life. Its about learning to dig deeper into such a matter so as to show the truth. The truth stands challenges and tests.
Again, these matters (the things that keep up us) are from things or people or situations (things + people). Once it has been recognised the thing/people/situation has a negative keep up on us, there has to be a plan to break free. To do this properly at times requires guidance from those that truly love us and we can truly trust.
We must break the cycle of dependency and this can be likened to an insect breaking the surface tension of water; a mosquito lands on it-it doesnt have the weight or ability to improving the surface of the water; weight is needed to get by it. To improving the veneer of a co-dependent relationship requires strength and strength; not physical strength and strength, but mental, emotional, and spiritual strength and strength. There must be a persistence to break the keep up in unhealthy relationships.
This can take months and in some situations years, and requires eternal vigilance.
© Steve J. Wickham, 2008. All rights reserved Worldwide.
 A co-dependent can be loosely defined as someone who shows too much, and often inappropriate, caring for persons who depend on him or her. A co-dependent is one side of a relationship between mutually needy people. The dependent, or clearly needy party(s) may have emotional, physical, financial difficulties, or addictions they seemingly are unable to surmount. The co-dependent party displays behaviour which controls, makes excuses for, pities, and takes other actions to perpetuate the clearly needy partys condition, because of their desire to be needed and fear of doing anything that would change the relationship. Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependence